Sarah Hyland Provides Uncommon Feedback on Surviving Previous Abusive Relationship That Scarred ‘Her Soul’

Earlier than accepting Selection‘s first ever Braveness Award for her work in animal welfare and home abuse consciousness final evening, the Fashionable Household alum opened as much as the publication about being a survivor of home violence and why it was essential to share her expertise with others.

“For hundreds of years now, we did not speak about it,” Hyland instructed Selection of tolerating home violence. “The group hasn’t shared sufficient, I imagine. And I really feel that if we speak about it extra, extra ladies — and males and simply human beings generally in abusive relationships — will really feel extra snug to have the ability to speak about it with their family members as an alternative of letting their abuser isolate them from everybody, which is the very first thing that they do, so that you just don’t have that group.”

She famous that “speaking about it” is “actually essential” in serving to these in want. She shared how the PTSD brought on by the expertise typically impacts survivors lengthy after the connection ends.

“[It stays] in that abused place of your soul, the place you suppose it is your fault the entire time and you may have completed higher, you may have gotten out sooner, you may have instructed folks,” she added.

Hyland additionally shared that there comes some extent the place “you do not wanna speak about it anymore. You need it to be completed, and that’s that.”

“I fully perceive the dissociation sample of it,” she defined. “I’m very a lot responsible about it myself… till one thing occurs the place I’m triggered, and I did not understand that a part of myself had been healed.”

On the subject of overcoming the drama, Hyland stated she does not know if it is one thing she or any lady will ever be actually healed from.

“I do not know if that half [of] any lady will ever be absolutely healed from that. It’s one thing that sort of scars her soul a little bit bit,” she shared. “It is extra so placing love in direction of that scar as an alternative of hating it and ignoring it.”

Whereas Hyland is now married to Bachelor Nation’s Wells Adams, she was beforehand linked to Matt Prokop. In Sept. 2014, Hyland secured a restraining order towards her ex-boyfriend over claims he verbally and bodily abused her through the course of their five-year relationship.

On the time, Hyland alleged that Prokop had exhibited violent conduct, lobbed a number of threats, and at one level, tried to choke her.

The month earlier than the order was granted, her Fashionable Household co-star Julie Bowen had reportedly intervened and helped Hyland finish her relationship, which allegedly led to Prokop threatening to kill her canine and burn down her home.

In an announcement given to Selection, Bowen shared how proud she was of her former costar for popping out the opposite aspect regardless of the trauma she’s endured.

“With out adversity, there might be no method to outline one’s character and sense of self,” Bowen instructed the outlet. “Sarah’s path has pressured her, from a really early age, to tackle challenges — each bodily and emotional. She has met every second with willpower, grace, and vulnerability. I am so proud that Selection is recognizing her power and coronary heart with the Braveness Award.”

Each Bowen and Jesse Tyler Ferguson have been readily available Thursday evening as Hyland accepted the distinction at Selection’s 2024 Energy of Girls Occasion. See pictures from the occasion under.

In case you are experiencing home violence, name the Nationwide Home Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, or go to thehotline.org. The hotline is on the market 24/7 in additional than 170 languages; Calls are confidential and toll-free.